Is My Loved One an Addict?

b1In today’s society, drinking and using drugs is somewhat romanticized in the media. People of all ages, mainly those that are very impressionable, see various celebrities dabble with drugs, glorify copious amounts of drinking, going in and out of rehab as though it is simply a “normal” cycle, and people begin to think “Hmm, I’m okay. I don’t have a problem. It’s normal and possibly even cool”. Of course, that’s not to say that that is the sole cause of addiction; it’s an aid. Another wondrous aid– social media! It is the perfect outlet for people to paint a picture they want everyone to see– bottles on bottles in the VIP section, keg stands at tailgates, chugging from “fancy” bottles, etc. It’s difficult for some people to keep up (safely) with these pictures or differentiate perception versus reality. Some people are able to have one or two drinks and stop. Some people drink and their personalities don’t change except for an added tinge of happiness, but that is where they stop.

A person battling addiction doesn’t know when to stop. Once they have a sip– game on! You may notice your loved one drinking excessively and when they do, they are completely different people. There are many types of alcoholics, binge drinkers are just one of many varying forms. Drinking to the point of blacking out more than once in a month, is certainly not normal. If you cannot control yourself, and have absolutely no ability to stop yourself, you likely have a problem. Then you have the alcoholic that comes to most minds when the word alcoholic is said. The one that never stops drinking. From the second they wake up, to the minute they go to bed, they are deep into mass amounts of alcohol to keep from withdrawing. Once you become powerless to anything, you have no control. You can try everything to stop, and just can’t.

If your loved one is suffering from the disease of addiction, bombarding them with it constantly may push them away. They may begin to isolate and become distant. Their lives become a dark cave of lies, guilt, shame, hopelessness, and suffering. The people who love them; friends and family, suffer as well. There are tests they can take (see below), asking questions that may lead to the conclusion that maybe getting help is the next step. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Keeping yourself informed is the greatest way to help someone. Approach the situation from a sincere place. Knowledge is power, read about it, and ask about it.

b2If YOU think you are an addict and you don’t want anyone to know, and don’t know who to tell, or aren’t ready to stop, think about your life in the long term; will you live a deep and meaningful life that is not completely dependent on alcohol or drugs? Will you be able to develop and maintain successful relationships? Do you want the rest of your life, for your partner to be your drug of choice? Can you stop? Can you go months without it? Have you ever Googled “How can I get help” WHILE under the influence? Do you oftentimes find yourself waking up in the morning not wanting to talk to or see anyone because you are embarrassed about things you may have done or said the night before? Do you wake up worried about your drunken Facebook postings? If you’re answering yes to most of these, and you can relate to many of the things in this blog, call Ridgeview Ranch Treatment Center TODAY at (800) 296-1868 to speak confidentially with one of our recovery specialist, available 24/7, to answer your questions, provide you help and support and to guide you to a new life of healing and sobriety.

Remember, the first step towards a better life is admitting you have a problem! The rest will come and your life will start to change in beautiful ways. No one deserves a life of dependency and darkness. Live the life you deserve.

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